A new mother has found herself producing more breastmilk than her child needs and has offered to give some to her sister-in-law, whose milk has yet to come in. However, this generous request apparently wasn’t enough
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A new mum claims to have found herself in an awkward situation after her sister-in-law requested that she breastfeed her nephew “from the source”.
The sister-in-law has also recently had a baby, but her milk has yet to come in, and unfortunately, her young son just spits up whatever formula she tries to give him.
With this in mind, she’s asked the other mother if she can spare some of her milk – as she has ended up producing much more than she needs – and she “happily agreed” to do so.
However, when she turned up at the door with a few bags of milk, her sister-in-law told her that this wasn’t what she’d had in mind, explaining that she wanted her son to “drink milk from the source “.
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Taking to Reddit, the conflicted mum said that her own baby is three months old, and she’s producing more breast milk than he needs, explaining, “if my child eats 4 oz every two hours then I’m producing 6oz”.
Emphasising just how much she has left over after her own child is full, she wrote: “I’m using the extra in my baby’s bath, and I’m also freezing what I’m not using. Since I started freezing I’ve accumulated quite a bit”.
However, her sister-in-law’s situation couldn’t be any more different. Her milk has yet to come in, and although she’s tried various different brands of formula, “nothing works”.
The poster – who goes by the username u/Big-Analysis-4770 – wrote: “I offered to give her some of my milk and she happily agreed, seeing as neither one of us wants her baby to go hungry.
“I went to her house to drop off a few bags, which she denied saying she only wants her son to drink milk from the source and insisting that this would be better for the baby.
“Although this is true, I’m not 100% comfortable breastfeeding a baby that’s not mine. I told her I’m happy to give her the frozen, or I can give her freshly pumped but she’s not having it. She told me I was being selfish and that I’ve not been willing to help her”.
Many fellow Reddit users have called out the sister-in-law’s “entitled” behaviour, acknowledging that, while her current situation may well be stressful, she has no right to make such personal demands.
One person wrote: “Your offer to share your stockpile was more than generous. Her demanding that you serve as a wet nurse is insane, shockingly entitled, and wholly impractical.
“Even if you were willing, how would that work? The baby is only fed when you can go over? Does she bring him to your house for a 3am snack? You take your nephew until he’s on solid food?
“[…] It is rather heartbreaking that so many in her position would be weeping with relief and gratitude at your offer to deliver breast milk and she somehow feels like it’s not enough”.
Another advised: “She’s probably struggling with everything right now, and isn’t thinking straight. Just let her know she can either accept what you’re offering or find another way”.
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