A woman was baffled when her boyfriend demanded her family refer to him by his Doctor title rather than just by first name – as he says it’s ‘disrespectful’ not to
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A woman has been left furious at her boyfriend after he demanded her family members refer to him by his full title rather than just by first name – even in casual conversation.
Posting on Reddit, the woman explained her boyfriend, named Justin, is a doctor and when he was introduced to her family and friends, he immediately found it “disrespectful” that they would refer to him by his first name, rather than putting “Dr” in front.
The woman also said her boyfriend will only allow her family to drop the title if and when the pair get married, and has now started to “aggressively” correct people when they call him Justin instead of Dr. Justin.
In her post, she wrote: “My boyfriend is a doctor. I met him through my dad back when we were travelling and after we started dating he started coming over to my hometown to visit.
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“When I introduced him to my family and friends, I told them his full name, then occupation, then mentioned the other stuff like age and hometown. All was well until months later when he started complaining about my family and friends who were referring to him by his first name and not putting ‘Dr’ before.
“I found this strange, and I told him that’s his professional title but as a society, we use first names and nicknames. He said he can’t help feeling annoyed, especially considering that ‘these people’ don’t know him well. But it’s been 8 months. He said once we’re married or engaged then they can start referring to him using his first name.
“Recently, he started correcting my friends and family whenever they call him by his name. His tone becomes aggressive and then he goes on a long lecture about how they should put ‘Dr’ before mentioning his name. It became exhausting because my friends and family can’t understand his strange hangup and he keeps picking fights with them about it.”
In one recent interaction, the woman’s dad called her boyfriend by his first name without the title in front, and ended up causing a “huge fight” after her boyfriend started an argument with him over it.
And what’s more, her boyfriend has even started blaming her for “letting” her family and friends “disrespect” him.
She added: “Last night we were visiting my parents and my dad called him ‘Justin’ instead of ‘Dr. Justin’. My boyfriend started arguing with him which cause a huge fight in the house and we ended up leaving.
“In the car, he went off on me saying I’m letting family and friends disrespect him continually by letting them call him by just his name. I told him he was at fault here and he was being unreasonable because what he’s expecting is bizarre.
“He said he takes pride in his profession and that he sacrificed so much to get where he is today and my family and friends literally lose nothing if they respect his wishes. He called me an enabler and said that siding with them paints me in a bad light and advised me to step up and take a stand but again, I thought he was overreacting and being hostile for no reason.
“We got home and he shut me down and refused to speak to me.”
Commenters on the Reddit post were equally baffled by the woman’s boyfriend, as many of them said he was being unreasonable by expecting people to call him “Doctor” in casual conversation.
One person said: “They have no professional relationship with him and he is engaging with them in a non-professional setting. He can get the f**k over himself.”
While another added: “Dr. is his job, it’s his title. It’s not the nature of his relationship with people outside of his career. It is not his name.”
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