A woman’s colleague complained about her to HR because she said ‘having a baby sounds like a literal nightmare’ – but the woman kept harassing her about wanting kids
There’s nothing more irritating than being repeatedly asked when you want children – especially if you don’t want them.
Other than being told you’ll change your mind when you meet the ‘right person.’
Or being told you’ll regret it if you don’t have children…we could continue.
One woman took to Reddit to vent about her colleague who was doing all of the things above, but the tale takes a twisted turn when the colleague reported the Redditor to HR – despite the fact she was harassing the 40-year-old about becoming a mum.
She wrote: “Hello all, I will keep this short and sweet. I (40F) do contract work, so I am moving every 3 months or so. I’m also happily single, and have never wanted to have kids. I am very content with my life. I get to do whatever I want, whenever I want. It’s the bee’s knees.
“Anyway, onto the story. The other day I was at work, for the record I work with a lot of women. The topic of family and children came up and I was asked when I was going to have kids. I said never.
“One lady kept bugging me about it, saying I’d change my mind when I met the right person, having a baby will be so satisfying, I’d regret it, and my personal favourite, that I was being selfish by not having kids.
“I’ve heard all this before, it’s nothing new, I usually just brush it off. I tried my usual brushing, but this one woman was being so persistent. And smug. Like she knew me better than I knew myself, and honestly it just irritated me.
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“I told her “I’m 40, I think I know best if I want kids or not. And honestly, having a baby sounds like a literal nightmare. It’s not something I ever want, and having kids would absolutely ruin my life.”
“After I said that she got really huffy, and told me she didn’t know how I could hate kids, that she has four, so I think her life is ruined? I told her no, that I’m happy she has a satisfying life and that’s what works for her. But that lifestyle doesn’t work for me. Not everyone needs to be a mother.
“She stopped talking to me, and the other people around said I was too harsh. Plus I heard through the grapevine she was filing a complaint with HR.
“AITA? I admit I could have handled the situation with a bit more tact, but she got under my skin. Plus honestly, I was tired of the conversation.”
People took to the thread to show their support for the original poster, branding the woman who was harassing her as disrespectful.
One wrote: “Let her file the complaint, and when it comes up (if it does), explain that your personal life isn’t her business and would like her to keep her comments professional moving forward.”
“Not only that, OP should bring up to HR that she is being harassed about protected statues, and would like it in writing that she has brought it up to HR, and the names of all who witnessed it”, fumed another.
Someone else jumped to her support, suggesting that she also file a complaint.
They wrote: “Don’t wait for HR to contact you. Contact them and file a complaint against her. You’re stronger if you’re not defending.”
One listed the reasons why the woman wasn’t in the wrong: “1) Your body, your life, your decision. 2) She was harassing you : I’d go to HR as well. 3) You said a baby would ruin your life, which is the truth. You said nothing about anyone else’s decision to have kids. 4) She is jumping to conclusions that not wanting kids = hating kids (peeve of mine).”
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